perf: use standard allocator, limit sqlite mmap to 4GB

This is an experimental change to see if we can reduce memory usage
with large SQLite databases.  If successful, we'll do this again and
further reduce the database mmap size.

This will cause greater use of the page cache, but that is more easily
reclaimed by the kernel, and should reduce memory pressure, as well as
making it clearer how much memory the application is actually using
for connections, subscriptions, etc.

Cargo.lock

@@ -1689,7 +1689,6 @@ dependencies = [
  "serde_json",
  "sqlx",
  "thiserror",
- "tikv-jemallocator",
  "tokio",
  "tokio-tungstenite",
  "tonic",
@@ -2959,26 +2958,6 @@ dependencies = [
  "once_cell",
 ]
 
-[[package]]
-name = "tikv-jemalloc-sys"
-version = "0.5.3+5.3.0-patched"
-source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
-checksum = "a678df20055b43e57ef8cddde41cdfda9a3c1a060b67f4c5836dfb1d78543ba8"
-dependencies = [
- "cc",
- "libc",
-]
-
-[[package]]
-name = "tikv-jemallocator"
-version = "0.5.0"
-source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
-checksum = "20612db8a13a6c06d57ec83953694185a367e16945f66565e8028d2c0bd76979"
-dependencies = [
- "libc",
- "tikv-jemalloc-sys",
-]
-
 [[package]]
 name = "time"
 version = "0.1.45"